Relationships

My Oldest Son Has Made My Wife and Me Sick

I am sad, angry, disappointed, and humiliated, because he totally disrespects his mother and me. He’s mean, ungrateful, and he has forgotten all the love we’ve shown him.

Katie: “Your son is totally disrespectful”—is that true?

It’s amazing what happens when we believe our stressful thoughts about

One woman, frightened and sad, can't find how to leave her abusive husband when he threatens and intimidates her. Another woman gleefully contemplates strangling the men who don't make her happy.

He's abusing me. Or am I abusing myself if I walk into a yard that has the sign THIS DOG BITES? "If you walk into the yard, the dog bites you," says Katie. "That's his job. If you walk into the yard a second time, you bite you."

Men should make me happy. If this doesn't work, who's left? "Make a list of all the things you want men to give you," Katie suggests, "and give them to yourself."

Feelings are like the temple bells that remind you to question what you're believing," Katie says, "because it's stripping the awareness of love from you."

Anger, contempt, fear, sadness—rich feelings sound through this pair of dialogues as Katie, with her gentle fearlessness, facilitates men doing The Work on their fathers. Both stories echo painful themes of abandonment and alienation.

The Work on Racism

Where does hate come from? What effect does it have on each of us? What will it take for it to end?

Meet Stearlene, an African-American woman who sits bravely before a predominantly white audience and states that she sees white people as the enemy. Using The Work's four questions and turnaround to explore the theme of racism, Stearlene meets her most frightening thoughts with understanding and discovers the truth behind the pain, a realization so rich that it explodes into love.